Tuesday, November 3, 2009

LIFE IS NOT EASY

I talked with my friend Marsha who is in FL right now.   She was telling me that she will be heading back to MI in a couple weeks.  Marsha's husband, Denny, passed away with cancer last Nov.  She came home in Jan. and spent the summer with her family and me.  She came home then because her mother who was 79 wanted her to come back, so she did, thinking her mom needed her.  Once she was here she realized she could not live with her mom because her mom would not let her do anything to help her. 

Shortly after she was back here she got a phone call from her friend Patty in FL telling her that Patty's husband John had cancer. Now John was the man that helped Marsha with Denny, he would stop by everyday and see if Denny needed anything and would sit with Denny if Marsha needed to go anywhere. Marsha's heart was breaking at the news of John.  She then felt she needed to go back to FL and be with them and help them during Jonh's cancer treatments the way they helped her.  She struggled with it all summer.

Because....

Her one brother Richard, who was the one that flew down to FL to drive back with her so she did not have to make the drive alone, had a severe stroke.  He could no longer live by himself or drive and doing alot of what he used to and lost a lot of his memory.  Now her heart was torn between staying and going back for her friend.

Then...

Her daughter Denise, who is only 34 was told she had cancer in her kidney.....  she then wanted to stay here for her daughter and be with her during the surgery when they removed her kidney.  They made it through all of that....  

Richard is now living with his mother and Denise is doing good after the surgery....

Thank God Marsha had found a Church to go to while she was home called The New Beginning..... she loves that Church and the people. 

Once she knew everyone was going to be okay here she was ready to head back to FL.  She missed her home, her friends and Denny.  Most of all the life she had there with Denny.  She was excited about going back and being with everyone and helping John and Patty through the tough days ahead.

The first couple of weeks back was good for her, she kept her slef busy with cleaning the house, seeing and helping friends..... then her heart started to get lonely.

Because.....

Denny was not there any longer and  John and Patty would not let her help them do anything.  Also, she got a phone call from her daughter Denise telling her they found more cancer.....  her heart was torn then...

She finally has made the decision that she needs to move back to MI and be with her family and friends back here... Denny is never going to be in FL again and she needs to move on and start her new path, where ever God leads her. 

Life is all about change, things come and go, people come and go, but God will always be with us....

So I ask that you all keep her in your prayers......

I know this could be anyone of us at any time, so be greateful for the people you have in this life.

Life is not easy for anyone.

Love and Light
Betty

2 comments:

  1. Tell Marsha my prayers are with her and her family. So much pain and distress to work through. Betty, I read and enjoy your inspiring blog everyday. It's almost like having you in the neighborhood again. God be with you until we meet again. Love ya!

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  2. Thanks Aleta, I have had a lot of people tell me the same thing.... I guess it is a way of haring with each other and God.

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